There is, in judgment, a resistance to forgiveness.
We hold the judged outside of us, yet “the judged” persistently returns as a beleaguered challenger, demanding forgiveness.
We do not forgive through an effort of will: that only masks and creates resentment. We must turn towards the pain and open ourselves in order to see beyond it: to merge with the other is forgiveness, not holding them away.
In seeing through the pain we encounter understanding: we encounter an innate kindness on the other side of understanding.
Open kindness exists outside of us (the same place we put the judged) and yet is also within us (as the other can be too).
