Self Creation: the path of fixation leads to death, the path of fluidity leads to life. There is no virtue in consistency if it prevents growth or change. To prevent the death of "one’s self" is exactly what kills us: the inability to grow and transform.
Your brain’s "default mode network" can be seen as your "ego," interpreting (mediating) your inner and outer worlds. Too much ego can lead to rumination, depression, OCD, and addiction. One way to quiet ego: get a physical hobby that recognizes mastery. Move out of your head into reality. The newest shortcut: shrooms.
Confrontation is alright, when done with respect and love, but it still fuels aggression rather than openness. Confrontation takes twice as long, with three times the energy, to wear down somebody down to the point they will hear you. Alternatively, you could land one well placed, well timed, insightful question and unravel the illusion of …