rejected masculinity

Many boys were taught masculinity by standing up for themselves and confronting the world’s difficulties: don’t complain, do.

Today, as a man, you still don’t complain. But you are told to back down, apologize, and shut up: step aside.

Many women see this as an apropos reversal: men being treated as women were treated.

The reaction from men will be the same as that from women, except perhaps less social and more violent. Feeling alienated and incapable of providing value or worth, men form sub-societies and lean into the traits society was meant to civilize.

How does “don’t complain, do” manifest for a man stripped of socialized, compassionate consideration?




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