scapegoating requires denying reality
When something doesn’t go right, we find somebody/something to pin it on. While unfair, condemning an external other provides two …
emotions
Mostly, we want to ‘feel’ smart
Being smart is hard. Feeling is easy. We like to read books that offer an illusion of understanding: clever detective-esque …
Separating shock from reality
Even after a brutal realization, you don’t have to live in it; you can hold it and realize everything that …
Emotional you: your best self
There are moments of renewal, where you have returned to a generous version of yourself: the thing that would’ve disrupted …
Emotional trojans
Thoughts are the trojan horse that smuggle in emotions. Emotions are temporary: they are real, but not really you. They …
You create your state
Things affect you because you decide to care: you made it about you. Most of your cares are small and …
I am not fucked up
You can declare “I am not fucked up” and it is true. To realize a thing is to make it …