Tag: emotions
Inflating into a fuck up
When I fuck up, it is because I am looking for a conflict, which usually means I am looking for…
I am (not)
First, you are not your emotions: your emotions change daily (if not hourly), displaced by others, though some are more…
scapegoating requires denying reality
When something doesn’t go right, we find somebody/something to pin it on. While unfair, condemning an external other provides two…
Mostly, we want to ‘feel’ smart
Being smart is hard. Feeling is easy. We like to read books that offer an illusion of understanding: clever detective-esque…
Separating shock from reality
Even after a brutal realization, you don’t have to live in it; you can hold it and realize everything that…
Emotional you: your best self
There are moments of renewal, where you have returned to a generous version of yourself: the thing that would’ve disrupted…
Emotional trojans
Thoughts are the trojan horse that smuggle in emotions. Emotions are temporary: they are real, but not really you. They…
You create your state
Things affect you because you decide to care: you made it about you. Most of your cares are small and…
I am not fucked up
You can declare “I am not fucked up” and it is true. To realize a thing is to make it…