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    learning from your mistakes

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    1–2 minutes

    Crossing a line makes it immediately clear where the line was, but up until then it can seem vaguely established. The action clarifies.

    This prompts two critical responses. Firstly, do you rectify your breach and learn from it? This involves recognition and acceptance that a misstep was made but goes beyond apology into responsibility.

    Secondly, can the lesson transcend specific domains? If viewed as a learning opportunity, a singular failure can catalyze broad improvements or realignments.

    The difficulty with focusing on learning by analyzing mistakes is that it emphasizes not failing, which thwarts risk-taking and becomes less about nurturing resilience and fortitude than maintaining brittle pride. Instead, oscillate your focus: lessons learned should limit repetitive errors, provide predictive models, and bolster forward momentum.

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    trust vs self-reliance

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    Our confusion lies in equating surrender of self-governance with trust.

    We exhibit commitment by becoming vulnerable, entrusting others with our emotional core—our most fragile and precious self.

    This, however, confronts human nature’s instinct for self-preservation, leading to an inevitable clash where hurt and betrayal emerge.

    Misguidedly, we create a co-dependent dynamic, mistakenly believing it fosters trust, when in fact it imposes the burden of our wellbeing on another—a form of emotional hostage-taking.

    True trust and love flourish not from dependency but through mutual self-reliance, enabling both parties to independently thrive.

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    slippery slope of trust

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    As a society, we handed over more and more authority to science because its agenda was approaching truth in an investigative manner by acknowledging failures and correcting them.
    Over time we placed trust in scientists and doctors, not the discipline, and increasingly handed authority to technocratic expertise: specific knowledge in hard disciplines was earned trust.
    Accordingly, politicians and the state, who seek trust and social persuasion, co-opt technocratic puppets. They utilize credentials to push agendas proven to be blindly harmful.
    The suborning of science’s trust creates a didactic return to the felt experience, the perceptive phenomenal embodied subjective, as more trustworthy, though that too has been proven unreliable.
    Consequently, our state of confusion is valid: we can not trust science, leaders, or ourselves.
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    Irrationality as Reasonable (zero-trust)

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    The quest for safety drives people. There are those who, in pursuing security under the government’s umbrella, flaunt laws and traditions yet claim to deserve state privileges nonetheless. Others maintain severe traditions that reject the state’s authority and claim sovereign privilege.

    This oddly hypocritical juxtaposition in our ideological stance pairs with self-preservation strategies. When a Kafkaesque scenario of distrust in leaders, prevailing narratives, and corporate entities leaves us in a “zero-trust” society, there is seemingly little benefit and much potential harm in extending trust to any institution. As a result, we drop back into fractious local networks of individuals to seek communion, safety, and trust.

    Counterintuitively, trust is not necessary when something is reasonable: no trust is extended when we all agree. And so, to invoke trust, we must evoke irrationality: social tests that go to unreasonable extremes bind loyalty, creating in-group and out-group affiliation.

    While rationality should lead to trust, it is more of a survival imperative to adopt irrationality, making it more reasonable when system trust is lost.

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    Navigating the Authenticity Dilemma

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    What path do you take when your authentic thoughts and opinions (your unique point of view) will alienate your audience?

    The predicament feels binary: stay true to yourself and risk being ostracized, or compromise yourself to maintain the audience and personal relationships. Any no-win scenario becomes a tautology. Compromising or silence is equally non-authentic, and thus not creatively productive.

    This seems to be the goal of a double-bind or double-blackmail: to regulate through loss.

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    trust beyond logic

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    Reality works upon us: we see or hear something, choose to believe it when it reconfirms a pattern in reality, and upon that belief we re-engage with reality creating a feedback loop.

    Media slips into this feedback loop, distorting the uptake and recognition of patterns to produce a deviated counterfactual. This manipulation -and our awareness of it- should have trended into zero-trust long-ago.

    And yet, despite this logic, faith in trust persists.

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    double standards

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    To bear two standards (banners or flags of loyalty) is to serve multiple masters: the favorite person and fidelity to the law.

    Given the inevitable conflict (humans crossing every threshold), the law will be breached and loyalty tested.

    Consistency to the principle (law) fails the specific (person). Once breached, return to trust seldom outweighs resentment.

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    Imposter syndrome

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    The imposter is overly confident, while a successful entrepreneur who is challenging them self is always afraid.

    The fear is because they are overcoming resistance, encountering uncharted territory.

    Once they are not plagued with some doubts they are not pushing them self. At that point, they are either not invested (wasting their time) or they are literally a “confidence man” in the middle of a con.

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    confidence, not trust

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    You must have confidence, not trust.

    The opposite of confidence is doubt, and if someone sees doubt in your eyes, you will never build a mutual horizontal relationship.

    Banks have relationships based on trust; they measure out exactly how much you can pay back. The association is transactional: doubt springs from analyzing the situation and finding risk.

    Your job in a friendship is to believe in the other person; their job is to reciprocate with their best effort. You do not bully them with guilt; you allow them to find their best effort and develop pride in themself because you did not undermine them. Instead, your confidence provided them an opportunity to achieve.

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    too long a parasite

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    Any system of dependencies limits independence by encouraging a replication of behaviors: the reliance of the parasite establishes it’s behavior pattern.
    Be wary of your fixed pattern: when the host (or institution) fails so do you.

    To reverse the point be wary of subduing the wild into the domestic: making it (or them) parasitically reliant drains resources from you.

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    "too long a parasite and one cannot exist without a host." ~ Frank Herbert)