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Tag: suffering

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    survivor bias

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    Often, we look at the survivors and make our decisions, but we forget about the casualties.

    The famous example is that the military put extra armor where planes were being shot, but they were only thinking of the returning planes (survivors as the dataset), not those that were shot down. They should have put additional armor on everywhere except where the bullet holes existed on returning planes: those areas signified lethal hits, as no aircraft returned.

    This “in your face” or “availability” bias is the same as when seatbelts or advanced military helmets are introduced: injuries go up, causing us to correlate the new technology with more injuries. However, this limited view does not consider that deaths decrease: an unseen factor.

    We are left confronted with the pain of the survivors, while neglecting the more significant implication: they are still alive.

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    The Hidden Cost of Borrowed Balance

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    Striving for balance among others is not merely a question of trade—peace for chaos, equanimity for pain—but of recognition. When your balancing acts go unseen, they breed asymmetry: absorbing others’ burdens now often returns future suffering. You quiet today’s turmoil only to inherit tomorrow’s unrest. The difficulty lies not in discerning balance, but in bearing the invisible weight of maintaining it for others. Over time, unacknowledged efforts compound, not in peace, but in deferred anguish. True balance, then, must be mutual and visible—otherwise, it exacts more than it restores.

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    Salvation v Redemption

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    Salvation is often seen as deliverance or rescue from danger, suffering, or sin, emphasizing protection and preservation. It is generally associated with an individual’s spiritual journey toward God, involving faith and divine grace.

    In contrast, redemption refers to the act of restoring or buying back, often implying a return to an original state or condition. It involves addressing the effects of sin for all humanity, focusing on the broader restoration of the world.

    In Christian theology, redemption is more about reversing harm through sacrifice.

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    The Echo of the Wolf

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    When language becomes a vessel for emotional extremity, it forfeits literal weight (literal relevance).

    Cries of despair or rage—“I’m going to kill…” or “I can’t go on”—often signal inner turbulence rather than intention. Such hyperbole crafts a communal performance of pain, inviting empathy over intervention.

    Yet, when literalness suddenly asserts itself, society is stunned, unprepared.

    Habitual exaggeration dilutes credibility; thus, real peril hides in plain speech, unnoticed. We must learn to discern emotional signals without demanding literal precision, balancing empathy with vigilance. To take someone seriously isn’t to take them literally, but to hear the emotion as real, even when words mislead.

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    the punching bag

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    There are some things you cannot fight, and the frustration builds until you let it out. Often, we take it out on others.
    It is obviously human nature, easy to spot until we are doing it, in which case our behavior is valid and justified.
    When you are in a fight, your focus narrows, we become myopic.
    Furthermore, humans are centrifugal in their bodily reactions: the more intense the pain, the more the effects spread out (e.g., a wound on your finger affects your whole arm, not just the localized spot).
    Consider that the anxiety and anger bleed into a full body reaction. Yet, when let out on others, we focus like a laser, losing perspective and context, losing ourselves to the action.

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    religion: relieve the burden

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    Religion functions as a transactional system where adherence—whether through ritual, morality, or sacrifice—serves as payment for existential relief.
    It reframes suffering, offering symbolic or spiritual compensation for life’s burdens. This exchange is not merely financial but behavioral; discipline, obedience, or faith are currency for solace, purpose, or redemption. The structure provides a means to endure pain by embedding it within a greater narrative, transforming suffering into meaning.
    In this way, religion does not remove pain but repurposes it, making it bearable through the promise of transcendence, order, or divine justice.

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    Carrying Grief

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    You cannot grieve constantly, consistently: your mind will slip into distraction or action.

    Yet, as you purposefully walk across the room, you feel a nagging sensation that you have forgotten something. And so, you pick up your grief again and carry it for a while.

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    we are depressed, not repressed

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    Today we suffer from depression rather than repression.

    No one reading this is repressed despite the popular psychotherapeutic convenience of thinking so. Over the last 100 years, we have deconstructed and expanded "normalization" and "freedom," replacing both with a narcissistic psycho-politics of persistent self-evaluation and optimization.

    We can do anything but are so burnt out that we collapse under the extreme freedom of choice, which never leads to restoration.
    (idea from Byung-Chul Han )
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    Illusory self construction

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    We have a concept of who we are, an amalgam of accrued parts and patterned responsive behaviors. This notional “self” has stabilizing benefits: we can ask ourselves what we would do, and the “self” develops faster responses until our allegiance to “our self” is an unthinking, habitual reflex.

    Yet many of us experience pain because of “our self,” yet we do not correct it or escape. Our suffering is maintained by affiliation to an intersubjective conception of self: not only are we convinced of who we are, but others have bought in, accruing upon us in a petrifying abstraction. We assume this is who we are.

    And yet, under tension (extreme anxiety), we find we never knew ourselves: the abstractions are fractured when we must move to survive.

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    Pain is shared

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    Pain surrounds us in many forms—loss, death, and the recognition of our own inaction. While death, breakups, and moving are known as life’s most stressful events, watching someone else suffer can be even more agonizing. Their pain, delusion, and inevitable self-destruction mirror our own struggles, leaving us powerless, which amplifies our pain.

    This pain sits heavy in our chest, a signal something is deeply wrong, so we work to dislodge it, to shake it off by thrashing and acting out.

    Pain, both physical and emotional, may start as centripetal (focussing down to a central point) but becomes centrifugal (spreading out) from a broken heart or cut to sweating and shaking to involving others. Pain is shared.

    (partially from Henry Bergson, William James)