To become stable alone you first need community
To grow into the ideal state of autonomy (the robust individual), you must first participate in an ecology of growth … More lint
The friction keeps you on track
Ease allows indulgence. In journaling it is dictating, in relationships it is nodding, and in creation it is formulaic emulation.… More lint
the price of love
The price of "love" is to have your dysfunction soothed, which is temporary at best.
The delusion is to think … More lint
Choosing the passive role, remaining open to life’s flows, or the active position, imprinting your will upon situations, are not … More lint
Your attention is your state
Where your attention goes is your state of being.
Depression, anger, and resentment are good at drawing and maintaining attention, … More lint
Bids for Attention
Relationships bid for attention. A request demands a reaction: either share or dismiss.
Some people become vampiric, needing you to … More lint
Pay Attention to Avoid Regret
Not paying attention means you have focused internally, retreating from the world.
Living in your head means you miss the … More lint
Self-flagellation alienates you from the world
Supposedly punitive self-flagellation trains you not to make the same mistakes. However, the cycles of rumination embed negativity, leading to … More lint