Your attention is your state
Where your attention goes is your state of being. Depression, anger, and resentment are good at drawing and maintaining attention, so we identify with that …
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Bids for Attention
Relationships bid for attention. A request demands a reaction: either share or dismiss. Some people become vampiric, needing you to sustain them. (And vice versa.) …
Pay Attention to Avoid Regret
Not paying attention means you have focused internally, retreating from the world. Living in your head means you miss the world and enriching details. That …
Self-flagellation alienates you from the world
Supposedly punitive self-flagellation trains you not to make the same mistakes. However, the cycles of rumination embed negativity, leading to repetition and catastrophizing. Equally, these …
Awareness v Attention
Attention is a flashlight we point to direct focus, often leaving us blind to the rest of our surroundings. Awareness is an eternally vigilant, always …
Sabotaging others is self-sabotage
Self-sabotage gets attention. Passive-aggressive sabotage is the same thing. You do not let someone’s life go smoothly: you make yourself into a bump or barricade …
The goal of suffering
Look at me suffer. I don’t want this. I did it to myself for you. What is my goal? To repeatedly do something, even though …