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    you are more than you

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    Kant used the term "noumena" to oppose "phenomena": the noumenal you is inherently you despite the phenomenal appearance other people may see.

    Zizek says the "noumenal core" of you is the unfathomable "x," the je ne sais quoi, the charismatic core. Drawing from Lacan, the petit objet a* creates your noumenal core, the desire that cannot be fulfilled, that drives you and bleeds out of you, which is experienced as charm, danger, or drive.

    In this sense, you are more than you: you are your "x"—your excess. Beyond the phenomenal experience of "you," your noumenal core exudes and expands to become the undefinable "you" to which people react.

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    aggregation of stressors

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    Stress often accumulates not from a single monumental decision but from a series of small, rapid choices over time.

    Individually, each decision seems manageable, but together, they create a heavy burden. This continuous decision-making exhausts emotional, physical, and psychological resources, leading to burnout.

    While seemingly nothing has changed, the cumulative effect of countless decisions can result in a sense of displacement and malfunction, making one feel disconnected. Being highly functional yet not attuned can begin to feel schizophrenic, causing a dramatic break over a mundane detail.

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    Consider displaying a subtle token of displeasure

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    For people pleasers, challenging oneself to avoid accommodating others through a symbolic gesture can be a significant step. This isn’t about aggravating others (triggering) but rather practicing standing up for your beliefs, fostering independence.

    Camouflaging in "likability" is easy but leads to a habit of conformity and avoidance of confrontation.
    The token you display -the symbol- acts as a prop for internal growth, to be discarded once self-awareness is achieved. Ultimately, knowing oneself eliminates the need for external validation by signaling.

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    non-linear nature of psychological healing

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    Healing is not an absolute state; it is a precarious equilibrium.

    Even when your external circumstances appear stable and content, unexpected provocation can reconnect you to a web of unresolved pain, initiating a cascading PTSD.

    This phenomenon disrupts the linear assumption of psychological healing, showing it’s nature to be more circumstantial, ultimately managed rather than following traditional notions of recovery.

    For example, you might be materially successful and outwardly happy, yet with one exchange a profound, gut-wrenching anxiety can still seize you, pulling you into introspection and rumination, fear and desperation that threatens breakage. And this event will seem innocuous or trivial to others, as the emotional linkage is parabolic in it’s descent.

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    Cure for Addiction: Connection

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    To balance over or under-stimulation, we engage in self-destructive behaviors. To counter self-destructive excess (addiction), we lean into abstinence, a zero-space, white-knuckle state of hard-edge discipline.

    This traditional reliance on sheer willpower has been proven to fail repeatedly*. When it is successful in restraint, it produces inflexible fragility when confronting the world or stress.

    However, research reveals that animals isolated in cages develop addictions, while those in enriched, communal environments do not.

    This suggests that addictions stem not from personal failings but from environments (or groups) that fail to meet our needs for connection. Abstinence from the behavior does not necessarily mean isolation; instead, try fluctuating between solitude and solidarity.

    * Breakdown of Will, George Ainslie

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    rationality backwards to desire: kaledescopic chaos

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    First, logic doesn’t lead to thoughts: thoughts back into form from desire. Notions take shape from the possible harm or potential ramifications that feed you or free you. Logic is merely how we present our desires to sell them.

    Consider "expectations" from a pathological person: they are not based on reason but a pattern of recognizing irrational audience demands, which continually ratchet upwards and spin sideways in their demands, conveniently shifting to maintain power. This is a vice of kaleidoscopic chaos, ever restricting while shifting in pattern.

    The delusion is to consider that we can identify the pattern: our irrationality competing with theirs.

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    Secrets and Superiority

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    Secrets harbor a unique tension: the subtle thrill of maintaining normalcy while privately reveling in being an outsider by dent of privileged information.

    "If only they knew…" becomes a tantalizing refrain, imagining the reactions it could provoke can become fetishistic.

    Moreover, possessing a secret, especially one sanctioned by authority, subtly fuels the ego. This privileged knowledge allows one to feel superior without the need to overtly demonstrate it, effectively subduing the social expression of ego while internally amplifying it.

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    begging for trouble

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    First, we should know not to poison ourselves for a high.
    We love weird, violent, drama-filled television and media, and yet it upsets our dreams and arouses anxiety and suspicion. We then drink alcohol to mute the feelings that we provoke.
    Simultaneously, we don’t work out, which counterintuitively leads us to eat worse: we either rush towards disaster or dive into self-improvement but can’t maintain a moderate stance.

    Humans are oddly compulsive; even when we move in the right direction, we overdo it, begging for trouble at every turn.
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    survival requires delusion

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    We are excellent at deluding ourselves, a trait evolved for survival.

    To survive difficult or desperate situations, we manipulate our state of mind: we create hope in the future to offset present misery.

    On the other hand, clear-eyed assessment (i.e., grim realism) is pessimistic and/or cynical, disincentivizing survival by presenting a sober, truthful accounting that the odds are miserable. Our instinct, the survival imperative, encourages us to be irrational and to believe in our exceptionalism, which encourages perseverance against reality.

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    Cycle of Novelty

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    Approaching the new: As children, we learn to experiment and experience novelty until the thrill produces anxiety, threatening to overwhelm us. Then we rush back to safety, regain our courage, and set out again.

    This cycle remains, but as we grow older, we can detach from reality, allowing our pathologies to simulate the anxiety and thrill of novelty and discovery, often at the cost of relationships.