Every problem I have could be self-diagnosed, but until verbalized to another it remains malleable: a hidden truth without consequence.
The accountability of deep friends is the path to becoming whole (seen and not hidden).
They reveal you, which heals you: instead of repression and rumination, you can see clearly, forgive, and try a new way with support.
Tag: denial
- Theme: Self
healing revelations
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1–2 minutes - Theme: Self
Real Cool v Fake Cool
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1–2 minutesReal cool lacks striving and is comfortable.
Fake cool adopts the affectation of not caring while caring immensely, which requires repressing anxiety and authenticity for social acceptance. Artifice may avoid isolation by isolating the ‘self,’ but the double-bind invariably leads to a schizophrenic crash, which is not cool. - Theme: Self
Politeness
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1–2 minutesCivilization functions because of impulse control to such a degree that ‘politeness’ is a virtue. Non-reaction is vital, yet this is not non-judgment.
Our society’s value placed upon the visible appearance rather than the internal struggle condemns us to a cycle of schizophrenic repression and angst in the populace. Hence, we have our meltdowns with a smile. - Theme: Self
The goal of suffering
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1–2 minutesLook at me suffer. I don’t want this. I did it to myself for you.
What is my goal? To repeatedly do something, even though it is irrational and painful, is a pattern to get results: attention, affirmation, validation, pity, or to signal misalignment.Take responsibility for perpetuating your pain, or you will forever excuse your suffering upon the world and others.
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To kill a symbol don’t fight it: trivialize it
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1–2 minutesThe true believer and the blasphemer share the power of the symbol: a reverent or desecrator both act from fervent belief.
While irreverence can be an antidote to weaponized piety, what truly kills the sacred is to make it abundantly commonplace, from whence it is trivialized into the secular.
Watch commerce parasitically affiliate with the sacred until the transcendent transforms to tchotchke. - Theme: Self
You can’t excuse yourself
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1–2 minutesYou can’t excuse yourself from consideration; from parsing the acts of others into opinions.
We have a responsibility to keep thinking even when we shouldn’t be speaking. - Theme: Self
Trojan horse
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1–2 minutesWhen is a gift not a gift?
When it is an obligation, which is really a trap.