self-made traps

Every problem I have is a self-made trap.
When I work too much, I do not set the boundary: I dangerously conflate my ‘sense of self’ with accomplishment and people-pleasing. All my responsibilities are my earlier wishes coming true.
Unfortunately, my previous dreams overwhelm me, turning into nightmares. I act out, angrily throwing tantrums until I am recognized and soothed like a child.