Seeking Likability: The Illusion of Safety and Authenticity

The desire to be liked by others (likability), whether it’s your boss or strangers, can stem from a need for safety or a desire to be seen as a good person.

However, seeking approval requires constant effort and doesn’t guarantee stability or assurance. Trying to please everyone is an impossible task, as people’s desires often conflict.

Instead, being genuinely responsible and consistent in yourself can attract genuine “liking” from others. True liking, or respect, is gained from the recognition that you are working on yourself first, not working to please others.

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