Do you find yourself looking for a reason to check in?
We often think we are doing this for somebody else, doing them a favor.
Still, it seems to be a means of grounding ourselves: this is who I am, this is where I am, please reciprocate my thinking of you by connecting with me.
It is a pattern of behavior to reverify ourselves in relation to others.
Many people complain that checking in is repressive control in a relationship, but once you don’t have the relationship you find yourself looking for and creating the repression you miss.