don’t aim for happiness or you will destroy it

We say we are looking for happiness, but we are looking for a marvelous life that comes from a great pursuit.
Almost none of which appears as happiness. Happiness is a byproduct of doing excellent work.

Furthermore, even if we achieve happiness we promptly destroy it agitating for a novel heightened level of experience or meaning: we destroy happiness seeking more happiness.

(in part from Jordan Peterson)

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