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Tag: escape

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    perfect = invisible

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    The perfect child is invisible, a non-entity until trotted out to perform childhood cuteness, which is more often than not a parody of adulthood.

    Many children are taught to hide from confrontation and never stand out, a “good boy/girl” coping tactic to avoid the ire of a tantrum-throwing, belittling bully (parent, sibling, teacher, classmate). The best strategy to avoid causing ripples is avoidance and disappearance: to be perfect is to be perfectly invisible, a polite genie that appears when the lamp is rubbed.

    Yet, this conflict avoidance increases relationship conflict: there is no intimacy with an apparition.

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    Struggle is Freedom

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    Reality is what pushes back against your agency: the easier it is, the more you belong to someone else.

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    Ease Signals Subjugation

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    Reality is what pushes back against your agency: the easier it is, the more you belong to someone else.

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    How Technical and Moral Elites Reshape Sovereignty

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    Our political regime is transforming, with decision-making authority shifting from a constitutionally based majority (democracy) to a coalition of technical and moral elites (managerial and clerical overseers.) These elites support a state-like entity that expands through the “woke” revolution and the encroachment of technical expertise into daily life.

    Both movements (though seemingly unrelated) undermine traditional practices (meritocratic learning) and promote an anthropology of vulnerability (victimization mining). Thus, the oppressors and oppressed need help, justifying expanded managerial control and discrediting classic common sense. (i.e. You can’t manage yourself, what you know is wrong.)

    Power in both movements is centralized in the Humanitarian Party, encompassing corporations, media, universities, and NGOs. This coalition champions protected classes, but is using them to advance social control and empower a new class of social managers and political opportunists. (The compassion may be authentic, but converting the clients of recognition into mascots repositions marginalized people as shields and prybars for unscrupulous both machinators and the well-intentioned.)

    paraphrased from Matthew Crawford’s “Minoritarian Moralism“

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    Consider displaying a subtle token of displeasure

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    For people pleasers, challenging oneself to avoid accommodating others through a symbolic gesture can be a significant step. This isn’t about aggravating others (triggering) but rather practicing standing up for your beliefs, fostering independence.

    Camouflaging in "likability" is easy but leads to a habit of conformity and avoidance of confrontation.
    The token you display -the symbol- acts as a prop for internal growth, to be discarded once self-awareness is achieved. Ultimately, knowing oneself eliminates the need for external validation by signaling.

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    trust vs self-reliance

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    Our confusion lies in equating surrender of self-governance with trust.

    We exhibit commitment by becoming vulnerable, entrusting others with our emotional core—our most fragile and precious self.

    This, however, confronts human nature’s instinct for self-preservation, leading to an inevitable clash where hurt and betrayal emerge.

    Misguidedly, we create a co-dependent dynamic, mistakenly believing it fosters trust, when in fact it imposes the burden of our wellbeing on another—a form of emotional hostage-taking.

    True trust and love flourish not from dependency but through mutual self-reliance, enabling both parties to independently thrive.

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    To be free: pause remembering and cease imagining

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    The past is mostly artificial, so when we continuously construct our “self” it is based on transfigured delusional remembrance.

    We then encounter each moment not as it is but from a “deluded self” reacting to a subjective narrativization, a private myth only tenuously touching on reality. This “self/ego” approaches interactions –either wounded or emboldened– attempting to correct our myth, to make the imagined real.

    Thus, we seldom pay attention to the present but busily imagine an improbable future from a distorted past, which traps us in quirks of our own making.

    If we can pause remembering and cease imagining, we could be free to see the present moment.

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    Authenticity: Individual Truths and Collective Validation

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    Proliferating individualism fragments society into a kaleidoscope of perspectives, each seeking recognition and power—high seats at the communal table.

    This quest for validation raises a poignant question: Why isn’t the mere existence of one’s truth sufficient? The drive to propagate personal truths reflects a deeper yearning for validation through communal resonance, a gathering of kindred spirits (or coercive group persuasion.) The problem forms from inversion, where communal truth feeds validation without personal truth.

    The fundamental human desire is not just "to be" but "to be affirmed" and influential within a collective: individual authenticity need not be bound to communal legitimacy, but the absence of genuine self-expression often leads to seeking validation through societal echo.

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    Neither left nor right, salvation from the subaltern

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    Any framework attempting a steady state (flatline or normalization) will encounter alternate, differential lines of flight.

    Since most systems limit divergence, we end up with a binary of excess or reserve, that is progressive explosion attempting escape, or a neutralizing deadening attempting static fixity. The first is a line of flight, the second is hunkering down.

    The termination of the norm (dissolution via distance) is energetic, compulsive and revolutionary, while the stability resembles retreat, antipathy or non-action.

    Fascinatingly, both political parties are active (positive cybernetic) lines of flight: Both promise "progress" drawing from a topic vision, both work to unmake the current reality, and both use a polarized, modified social fabric to embolden and normalize their fringe stances and capture the center.

    However, the counterforce that achieves the flatline (negatory group) is not even the ambivalent center but the completely non-engaged: those who have already escaped through non-participation. Those subalterns who do not register in our accounting and from whom perhaps the only sustainable (nonbinary) model of progress may stem.

    They may offer novel solutions, uncaptured and unpredictable, nullifying our destructive escape attempts from our current anxieties.

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    Overreach backlash: the internal spread of sovereignty

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    The once governed will not be governed anymore: they can now take the authority of the state upon (and into) themselves.

    This is an unintended reversal after state overreach: as grand-scale economic and judicial governance moved into “biopolitics,” the state breached the realm of the subjective individual.

    This prompted a reclamation of personal sovereignty and a citizen’s extension of the new precedent, not authority without but within. We grasped the line of power pushed into us, and before it could retract, we pulled the rest of state authority into us as well: if they can govern our body, we can govern ourselves.