victimhood as freedom

You can find a type of freedom by exempting yourself from responsibility. By playing the victim, you can often convince others to release you of burdens. However, the ensuing trap is to lose agency.

In a reversal of freedom, this “outsourcing of obligation” binds you to the other: in a master/slave scenario, you lose the burden of responsibility by incurring a guardian.

The victim sees external circumstances align against them, which excuses them from fault and responsibility, but becomes deterministic in that they cannot control their fate.

Freedom is the ability to create your own prison of responsibilities.
This “frees you” from the need to heed the edicts of others but ensures you must vigilantly maintain your own dictates, and guard your own duties and virtues, which sounds not at all like freedom.



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