the hook of pain

When a troubling event keeps bobbing to the surface, your subconscious tells you something is unresolved: a lesson needs to be learned.
Often the event involves pain (being hurt or hurting). Caught on this hook, unwilling to let go, we have pierced ourselves and the other together in self-traumatizing rumination.

The problem with releasing the barb is we must approach and experience the pain without shying away. We must remain open-hearted to grieving and forgiving, allowing us to process the memory, remove the barb, and let the wound scar.

Otherwise, we risk pushing the pain under only to have it continually bob back to the surface, wounding us repeatedly.

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