Your identity is your form, which is an act. To be “you” is to behave as people imagine you should, even as you imagine “you” should.

However, beneath the act is a profound awareness that is not identifiable: it is formless and still you.

From this formless awareness, the fears, wants, and concerns of the self (the act of “you”) are merely passing desires to which we desperately cling to maintain a recognizable shape.

The idea that “to find yourself,” you double down on “you” only increases the identification with fear, wanting, and desire: you build a stronger shape/form which you then need to maintain.

To find peace, we need “to lose yourself.”