Why should you struggle when you can have a mediocre life for free? To have a great life.
Freedom of possibility comes from growth, not mediocrity. Paradoxically, your options for living expand when you fully engage specific restrictions.
Not all restrictions (not all submissions) help, but those that allow you to maintain focus and process emotions in a non-destructive manner create resilience and wisdom that will enable you to move freely through the world, unhampered by the anxiety and disorders that plague others.