Unfairness causes backlash in proportion: resentment at imbalance causes a reactive lockdown or retaliation to rebalance the dynamic.
Our reaction is to change who we are: to protect ourselves, we become someone else.
However, the rage you feel towards others is your own. (You produce and maintain it; you can also drop it.)
A genuine achievement is not getting even, but despite being wounded, remaining kind: remaining you.