The reason you recognize damage is because you were damaged.

The reason I can spot abuse, wrapped in pretty lies is because I was lied to, taken advantage of.

In such ways our insight grows: not to do what’s been done to us, but to ameliorate the progress of pain, while still imparting the learning.

After all, we do not want to eradicate a survival instinct, but we do not want to traumatize either.





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