If you are seeking the authentic you, the unadulterated authenticity of the unique self, it would only be revealed when you are by yourself, without the distractions or pressures of others. Yet, who we really are might only come from the challenges of interacting with others, otherwise your conception of self is untested.
Self Creation: the path of fixation leads to death, the path of fluidity leads to life. There is no virtue in consistency if it prevents growth or change. To prevent the death of "one’s self" is exactly what kills us: the inability to grow and transform.
The paradox of self-compassion is that it is not selfish: once you fully face your flaws and accept you are merely human, you more easily forgive others for their foibles.
We want people to change so the world will be better and easier. Yet we seldom follow the adage: “In order to change the world, you must first change yourself.” In the only realm we could possibly hope to have influence or a modicum of control, we do nothing, yet we continue to cry out …