Anxiety as Control
Sharing your anxiousness has a goal: forcing others to take note and show their caring. The loss of control that causes anxiety is relieved by …
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Eat your pain
You can be a little self-pitying booger all morning, angry and weepy and manic, and finally, realize you don’t need that behavior. It isn’t beneath …
Pain is a Re-prioritizer
In the midst of hurting, assigning importance becomes obvious: without our health, we can not pursue frivolities. I care nothing about work, deadlines, or money …
To protect yourself you hurt yourself
We have all had a trauma causing us to be anxious for years. That anxiety harms us repeatedly to caution us, despite the likelihood of …
Avoidance shrinks your world
The more we avoid pain (and seek comfort), we narrow our world. When difficulty arises, we repeatedly retreat to prevent confrontation. In retaliation to being …
The cure for pain
When you are the center of the world, every emotional pain is amplified. The pain gets trapped in a loop becoming stronger and more hurtful. …
Growth is Pain
To want to grow is to embrace pain. Growing requires stretching, breaking, and failing so that you become more. Growth can be forced upon you …