Tag: pain
forgiving our projected pain
While we find it relatively easy to forgive others, it is more difficult to forgive ourselves. We feel wounded and…
Mutual strain: avoiding rupture
Being in a relationship involves nerves: getting on them, both good and bad. We don’t fall out. Rather, our mutual…
the intimacy of betrayal
The most effective way to hurt something/someone is through studied intimacy. The "blunderer" is forgivable out of their ignorance: in…
the return to the body
Ideology, politics, philosophy, or religion work to redirect bodily energy (fleshly, libidinal desire) into grand tasks, but one must always…
true kindness
The unpleasant thing is to be honestly precise rather than passively ambiguous. Contrary to the stereotype of kindness, politeness can…
oh my God, smell this!
Our desire to share pain as a bonding experience is baffling. Our communal agreement in the awfulness is itself awful.……
Don’t look directly at Medusa
There are parts of our life upon which we cannot gaze. To do so would destroy our life. In such…
the hook of pain
When a troubling event keeps bobbing to the surface, your subconscious tells you something is unresolved: a lesson needs to…
Clever you causing pain
Your clever flippancy is callous: check your heart before you open your throat or let your fingers fly. Always engage…
Courage born from pain
It takes pain over time to become courageous. Mostly we don’t want to change; we want relief.Yet, there is a…