Tag: pain

  • forgiving our projected pain

    While we find it relatively easy to forgive others, it is more difficult to forgive ourselves. We feel wounded and…

  • Mutual strain: avoiding rupture

    Being in a relationship involves nerves: getting on them, both good and bad. We don’t fall out. Rather, our mutual…

  • the intimacy of betrayal

    The most effective way to hurt something/someone is through studied intimacy. The "blunderer" is forgivable out of their ignorance: in…

  • the return to the body

    Ideology, politics, philosophy, or religion work to redirect bodily energy (fleshly, libidinal desire) into grand tasks, but one must always…

  • true kindness

    The unpleasant thing is to be honestly precise rather than passively ambiguous. Contrary to the stereotype of kindness, politeness can…

  • oh my God, smell this!

    Our desire to share pain as a bonding experience is baffling. Our communal agreement in the awfulness is itself awful.……

  • Don’t look directly at Medusa

    There are parts of our life upon which we cannot gaze. To do so would destroy our life. In such…

  • the hook of pain

    When a troubling event keeps bobbing to the surface, your subconscious tells you something is unresolved: a lesson needs to…

  • Clever you causing pain

    Your clever flippancy is callous: check your heart before you open your throat or let your fingers fly. Always engage…

  • Courage born from pain

    It takes pain over time to become courageous. Mostly we don’t want to change; we want relief.Yet, there is a…