The victim bully
The victim claims they are hurt by your actions, bullying you into an apology and extracting promises for future consideration. The insidious aspect is that …
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Attempting solidarity, despite architectural divisiveness
The authority is in the theatrics of the architecture. At the bank, hospital, DMV, receptionist, or supermarket, we are channeled and herded by flimsy partitions, …
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2 years to wisdom
It only takes two years of being hurt and frustrated to come across as suddenly wise and resilient. Perhaps wisdom is derived from suffering manifested …
Empathy wins, and loses
One enlightenment tactic is broader and broader empathy: if you are empathetic for a person, I am empathetic for people; if you are empathetic for …
Caring is turbulence
Fluctuating moods come from caring about others: to connect is to risk stability. Simplistically, you can sit on the shore, drown, or learn to surf. …
Empathy transforms individuals into us
Comforting a hurting friend hurts, because we support (share and enable) their emotions to support them. Empathy is taking on their hurt. We lose ourselves …