Tag: defense

  • self-esteem destroyer

    Your self-esteem goes down when you “play the victim” and lash out. Your self-esteem increases when you “own your shit”…

  • Out maneuver Yourself

    Our ability to forecast motivations leads us to form expectations. Conforming to our predictions, we extrapolate seemingly rational actions or…

  • reputational policing

    To consider your online reputation as worth defending only encourages others to take perverse pleasure in denigrating it. This is…

  • We all believe something, even if it is nothing.

    Our lives are shaped around organizing principles. When our structure is attacked, we either lift the drawbridge or reign fire…

  • Defensive much?

    Why would you ever defend yourself? To explain enriches a narrative, both revealing and contextualizing, but when justifying one assumes…

  • You are never right

    Don’t be offended. You are never "right." Neither is the other person. You are both vying for supremacy and demanding…

  • Triggering

    Any probing question forcing a reconsideration of self is indeed triggering, but why do we hide, victimize, or lash out…

  • Defenses: Closed-system vs, Open-system

    A commonality of Amazon, Google, and Facebook is that they began not as defensive structures but as open structures. The…