Self-growth is unlikely to happen without self-disgust, which requires you to recognize your flaws.
The world does not inherently love you for who you are, but for how you respond to its challenges.
You must fight to be unique while simultaneously adhering to the game’s rules (society/family). This is a painfully tricky skill to develop. You must first recognize the worst aspects of yourself, gauge how they affect others, and convert that self-awareness into growth without losing your positive traits.
Although pride and self-worth are also excellent growth motivators, we tend to abundantly fertilize them while avoiding pruning.