provoking the reaction

Knowing people are trainable, you can break expectations for your own gains, but it will incur resentment that will lead to confrontation.

Be sure you have a legitimate (logical not emotional) precedence and a grievance they can remediate.

When confronted you can provide them with a choice: accept my behavior or compensate me for compliance.

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