Self-sufficient from love
The problem with being self-sufficient is that you teach yourself never to ask for help. Pretty soon, you never ask for anything. The problem is, …
Repeated Idiocy: Frustration as Life
I know what works: watch the tutorial first, follow along. And yet, every time I waste half a day thinking I can figure it out …
You never notice the good drivers
A friend commented on this, illustrating the prevalence of negativity to shape your perception of the world, and our blindness to mundane excellence. Similarly, we …
Subtraction: Ever-Present Happiness
Happiness is not finding something or adding something. If it were, rich people would be happy. To discover happiness you must clear away the excess. …
Procrastination is pleasure in pain
While we can easily break our day into chunks to manage it, the procrastinator requires more pain to invoke discipline. They trade the current moment …
Calm amidst rage: detached observation
You can be fine, even happy, amid anxiety and outrage. These feelings come over us, but we can watch them and not identify with them. …
Losing your self to find joy
Happiness is found when “I” disappear.The paradox of identity is we identify with something, which often has desires, demands, and behaviors (attachments). The paradox is …