Things affect you because you decide to care: you made it about you. Most of your cares are small and serve no one, not even yourself. Equally, you can let nothing affect you and become a stone. How boring. Be aware, be particular.
Someone who loves you can protect you from your self. They encourage you into happiness, they cajole and redirect you into what you really are.
Productivity is necessary, but don’t forget why you are being productive. Why are you trying so hard? To live well? You can do that right now. Don’t let the "to do" block you from "being" and "becoming."
Always stop in the middle of a project and go for a walk, don’t power through and reward yourself when you are done. This does 2 things: 1. it allows your subconscious to work on the problem. 2. you get some perspective. Never fear: You will wish to continue the project when you get back. …
Don’t wear yourself out. Seriously. It just isn’t worth it to gain praise or even self-affirmation. Work hard, but know your limits. (This comes from a continual battle with migraines.)
Writing well means you learn from the writing. Which is why it takes so long, is so taxing, and you end the day exhausted from the good pursuit of growth. What is amazing is that writing well (with a critical eye) means you learn about yourself, and the thing you write about. No teacher: just …
Learning something new seems to require time, time to play and make mistakes, which is called experimentation and testing.