Fluctuating moods come from caring about others: to connect is to risk stability. Simplistically, you can sit on the shore, drown, or learn to surf. The problem is that surfing requires an inhuman mastery of persistent balance. There must be an effortless way to do all three simultaneously: collapse the wave.
Vulnerability reveals brokenness, and this allows for trust. Recognition of mutuality leads to communion. Not hierarchy or perfection, not abstractions of should and good.
The things we want have a cost. Wanting is free. Once your desire, craving, or compulsion is fulfilled, another one will arise. This is a permanent dynamic. But right now, you are breathing and just fine. Do we really want the “wanting”? Do we crave pursuit itself?
An old watch is complicated, but open it up and you can see the gears and (maybe) figure out how it works. Remove a gear and it no longer functions. A complex system has many interlocking variables, take one out and something else will replace it, making it a robust, dynamic system. Cascades of unforeseen …
The idiotic little chores are tiny burdens, so miniscule as to be nearly invisible. And so we succumb to their inevitability, writing off that portion of our life. To have even one of these simple things lifted, our gratitude is immense and out-of-proportion, but every day will now be easier because of someone else’s thoughtfulness.
To be good, you don the armor and obligations of a knight. It is heavy, cumbersome, and ill serves you in quicksand. Instead, try to be a whole person: not fragmented or in need of being held together by the steel bands of affirmation. Shedding the concept of “good” frees you to be what you …
If you don’t know what reality is, how can you fix the world? Gandhi says "Change yourself before changing the world," but you can change into a more deluded person if you do not see the world clearly first.